RELATIONSEX is out:
:R and I (:P) have been up to no good again. We have developed and produced a new game for couples, poly-groups, swingers, etc.
We went to great pains to develop this game in what we call 'Sextions'. Each of these sextions entail a different kind of play, but they can be used together or separate from each other. Start out with some sticky situational sex questions and how you would handle them. Other players may challenge your answer, and then the group descussion ensues. Get to know your partner, friends, and self.
The add in some of the 'play' sextions. They allow you to get to know your partner, friend's, and your own self, in the more 'physical' realm. Sextions such as 'Strip of Dare' make the fun hysterical. This game is fully customizable to fit into any siuation. Check it out at:
RelationSex Game
TIME IS RUNNING OUT
Get your submissions in for the Erotic true story contest. The winner get's the first RelationSex game off the press. Get your's first, before your lover.
Send entries to cwswingers@gmail.com
STUMP CWS:
Try and stump us. We want to hear from you. Send us your most chalenging situation related to Relationships or sex. Give us your doozies. We want to hear from you. You can also just send us links to great sites, or other interesting items. Send your info to cwswingers@gmail.com
Thanks :P
Friday, November 21, 2008
Thursday, November 6, 2008
Erotic True Story Competition
We have an erotic story competition for November..
We are looking or 'true' erotic stories. These don't have to be precisely accurate, but a literary take on an experience you had.
The competition is in full swing, and ends on Nov 30, 2008.
The prize will be something fun, but it hasn't been decided yet. Don't forget to change the names in your story if you need to
keep youself anonymous. And WRITE. Share something fun. You can see our entry on the blog for November 6th. Of course
we are aren't elligible to win.
Email - cwswingers@gmail.com with your entry. The winner will be asked for permission to post the story on the site. As Well as any 'runner up' or stories of note. (We will find prizes for them also).
But write, share. Tell the world about your most exciting experience.
And as always
"Swing Away"
:P
Tuesday, November 4, 2008
Our New Home
Well, CWS has a new home. You can get there HERE
We offer to our friends FREE:
Classified/Personals
Forums
Contests
Public CALENDAR for event.
And much more.
Come join the community.
CWS Homepage
We offer to our friends FREE:
Classified/Personals
Forums
Contests
Public CALENDAR for event.
And much more.
Come join the community.
CWS Homepage
Monday, November 3, 2008
Communication
We are going to start by discussing communication. Of course, this is a topic that EVERY polyamory or swinging site covers in detail. We are going to cover it again. But we have a worksheet for you to fill out that makes it fun, and will lubricate the discussion.
Click Here For Worksheet
So, what kind of things need to be discussed.
1. Why?
Why are you in the lifestyle, or seeking it out. I will tell you that there is no wrong answer. If you are looking for something that your partner can't give you, or just wanting to experiment with sex. It's all ok. But it is IMPORTANT to know what the motivating factor is. There are all sorts of swingers and poly couples out there. For example: There is a female who doesn't like to give her partner oral sex. But everything else in the relationship is great. The partner really likes oral, and it really makes them happy. This couple may be playing just to allow the partner to receive oral sex occasionally. This is OK. So, why are you swinging, or interested in swinging?
2. What are your boundaries, and what are your partners boundaries.
Now that you have determined why you are here, in this place. What is ok, and what isn't. Start broad, and work y our way narrower. It may start with, I'm ok with oral, but not intercourse. And then I'm ok with oral, if I'm in the room, and then I'm ok with oral, while I'm in the room, and it's someone I'm comfortable with you doing that to. You see. It's almost like wandering in some catacombs. There are dead ends, and long passages. You just need to discuss and see what make each other tick. Everyone is different, and everyone changes over time. This is not unusual. So, take a long look at your boundaries, discuss them broadly, and then discuss the details.
3. Negotiate.
After you have made it this far into the conversation, and both parties are still civil (If at any point during this process either gets upset, jealous, or angry, let it go, and start at 1 again, Why are we here?). Ok so you have discussed boundaries and by now I'm sure that you both have realized there is a difference in your boundaries. (If there isn't, one probably isn't being honest, and only agreeing to make the other party happy. This should be avoided.) You and your partner have differing views on what is acceptable. This is fine. Do not get discouraged. Things change as you get more experenced, and meet new people. And besides, rules were meant to be broken (safely and mutually broken). Just because you can't imagine a situation where you would be comfortable crossing your boundaries listed above, doesn't mean that you won't be in a situation that doesn't lend itself to more. Some of the most exciting situations I've been in were ones that forced me to my boundaries, and pushed them. So negotiate. Discuss what kinds of situations, or environments would facilitate being able to look at the boundaries more closely.
4. SAFEWRDS!
Ok, now that you know why, what, and where you can go in the future, it's time to communicate in a way that keeps people safe. No one wants to be in a situation where you have to reject someone. But any swinger who has been to a party, or meeting with others of ike mind, knows that people are going to 'come on' to you or your partner that either of you aren't comfortable with. Have some word, or maybe a touch (like a batting coach signal to bunt). My wife and I are Beatles fans, and we use "Yellow Submarine" as our safe word. It works well for us, cause if i'm uncomfortable, or she is (which being in that tiny yellow submarine would be), it's easy to just sing quietly the chorus. People get songs stuck in their heads all the time, and people whistle or sing often when they are nervous, or anxious. So nobody will think too much about it, if done discreetly. Don't jump up and scream "Yellow Submarine", grab your pants and run from the room. You might as well just tell everyone you aren't comfortable. The 'safeword' is to give you or your partner an 'out', in a difficult encounter.
These are the basics. The art of communication, and sharing feelings openly with your partner is very tricky. No one want's their partner to judge, ridicule, or reject them. This is probably the most important person in your life. This makes it all the more important to share you feelings, and also the hardest to share with at times. The best advise is to remember, EVERYONE is entitled to their feelings, no matter how irrational. What makes us people of good character is how we deal with them, and most important, react to them. Always remember, THOUGHT CONTROLS EMOTION. You may not agree with me on this point. But I assure you it is true. If you are feeling something that you don't want to, change your perspective. Look at it from the other side, empathize, and reevalute risk and reward. Most of the time, you will feel different about whatever was causing you greif. We will get more into this in a later post.
REMEMBER: We will answer reader questions anonymously, so send them to us at CWSwingers@gmail.com, let us know what you think, and ask us what you will. We will do our best to answer your questions whether new to swinging, or veteran with a problem.
"Swing Away"
:P
Click Here For Worksheet
So, what kind of things need to be discussed.
1. Why?
Why are you in the lifestyle, or seeking it out. I will tell you that there is no wrong answer. If you are looking for something that your partner can't give you, or just wanting to experiment with sex. It's all ok. But it is IMPORTANT to know what the motivating factor is. There are all sorts of swingers and poly couples out there. For example: There is a female who doesn't like to give her partner oral sex. But everything else in the relationship is great. The partner really likes oral, and it really makes them happy. This couple may be playing just to allow the partner to receive oral sex occasionally. This is OK. So, why are you swinging, or interested in swinging?
2. What are your boundaries, and what are your partners boundaries.
Now that you have determined why you are here, in this place. What is ok, and what isn't. Start broad, and work y our way narrower. It may start with, I'm ok with oral, but not intercourse. And then I'm ok with oral, if I'm in the room, and then I'm ok with oral, while I'm in the room, and it's someone I'm comfortable with you doing that to. You see. It's almost like wandering in some catacombs. There are dead ends, and long passages. You just need to discuss and see what make each other tick. Everyone is different, and everyone changes over time. This is not unusual. So, take a long look at your boundaries, discuss them broadly, and then discuss the details.
3. Negotiate.
After you have made it this far into the conversation, and both parties are still civil (If at any point during this process either gets upset, jealous, or angry, let it go, and start at 1 again, Why are we here?). Ok so you have discussed boundaries and by now I'm sure that you both have realized there is a difference in your boundaries. (If there isn't, one probably isn't being honest, and only agreeing to make the other party happy. This should be avoided.) You and your partner have differing views on what is acceptable. This is fine. Do not get discouraged. Things change as you get more experenced, and meet new people. And besides, rules were meant to be broken (safely and mutually broken). Just because you can't imagine a situation where you would be comfortable crossing your boundaries listed above, doesn't mean that you won't be in a situation that doesn't lend itself to more. Some of the most exciting situations I've been in were ones that forced me to my boundaries, and pushed them. So negotiate. Discuss what kinds of situations, or environments would facilitate being able to look at the boundaries more closely.
4. SAFEWRDS!
Ok, now that you know why, what, and where you can go in the future, it's time to communicate in a way that keeps people safe. No one wants to be in a situation where you have to reject someone. But any swinger who has been to a party, or meeting with others of ike mind, knows that people are going to 'come on' to you or your partner that either of you aren't comfortable with. Have some word, or maybe a touch (like a batting coach signal to bunt). My wife and I are Beatles fans, and we use "Yellow Submarine" as our safe word. It works well for us, cause if i'm uncomfortable, or she is (which being in that tiny yellow submarine would be), it's easy to just sing quietly the chorus. People get songs stuck in their heads all the time, and people whistle or sing often when they are nervous, or anxious. So nobody will think too much about it, if done discreetly. Don't jump up and scream "Yellow Submarine", grab your pants and run from the room. You might as well just tell everyone you aren't comfortable. The 'safeword' is to give you or your partner an 'out', in a difficult encounter.
These are the basics. The art of communication, and sharing feelings openly with your partner is very tricky. No one want's their partner to judge, ridicule, or reject them. This is probably the most important person in your life. This makes it all the more important to share you feelings, and also the hardest to share with at times. The best advise is to remember, EVERYONE is entitled to their feelings, no matter how irrational. What makes us people of good character is how we deal with them, and most important, react to them. Always remember, THOUGHT CONTROLS EMOTION. You may not agree with me on this point. But I assure you it is true. If you are feeling something that you don't want to, change your perspective. Look at it from the other side, empathize, and reevalute risk and reward. Most of the time, you will feel different about whatever was causing you greif. We will get more into this in a later post.
REMEMBER: We will answer reader questions anonymously, so send them to us at CWSwingers@gmail.com, let us know what you think, and ask us what you will. We will do our best to answer your questions whether new to swinging, or veteran with a problem.
"Swing Away"
:P
Saturday, November 1, 2008
How you Can contact US!!!
Well, there are several ways you can contact us. So here's a list.
Email
Twitter
Seesmic
CWS-Google Group
CWS - Main Site
CWSwingers on AFF
CWSwingers@yahoo.com (we don't use this email, but use it for Y! instant messenger)
CWSwingers@gmail.com Google talk and email
So, get ahold of us. If you want advice, or help with a 'Lifestyle' Issue. Get ahold of us, let us know what you think, and ask us your problems, we probably have faced them, or know someone who has.
Reply with your twitter or AFF or Instant messenger info, have fun with it.
"Swing Away"
:P
Seesmic
CWS-Google Group
CWS - Main Site
CWSwingers on AFF
CWSwingers@yahoo.com (we don't use this email, but use it for Y! instant messenger)
CWSwingers@gmail.com Google talk and email
So, get ahold of us. If you want advice, or help with a 'Lifestyle' Issue. Get ahold of us, let us know what you think, and ask us your problems, we probably have faced them, or know someone who has.
Reply with your twitter or AFF or Instant messenger info, have fun with it.
"Swing Away"
:P
Why Duncanville should Scare you!
Most of us have seen this, it was all over the national news. We are probably a little bit behind on here with this one.
I love how the media allowed the neighbor they interviewed to call it 'Sodam' and 'Gamorah'. The wonderful media of ours loves to use the religious aspect of our society when it suits them, and they will crush religion when it doesn't. They show these 'respectable' neighbors complaining about the activity behind a 'PRVACY FENCE'.
I understand you can't make money, by charging $50 to get into a private residence, and get away with it for long. But surely these folks saw that coming. I know, I know, they said it was a 'Donation'. That may be, but they were playing a very dangerous game.
Now I have attended 'Swinger' parties that had admissions to get in, and that is nothing new. Usually they give away prizes, and hold contests to break the ice, and mix it up. (Adult version of a middle school make out part, hehe) And we love them. But people can't continue to do 'business' in a residential area, outside the zoning laws, and expect to not get into some sort of trouble. If they were manufacturing goods out of their home, and shipping them to buyers, they would soon get busted.
But this brings up the next Question. Should sex clubs be legal. We all know that you shouldn't run a business (thats too big) out of your home. But it seems Duncanville is trying to pass a law that 'Sex Clubs' are illegal.
So, why should this scare you? I am willing to bet that if you look at the Duncanville city statute, there is already laws about having sex in public, and laws against running a business, including a club, out of your home. So, if there are already laws that say the things that are being sold, or done in a 'Sex Club' are already illegal, then why are they going to write a specific law against it?
This is the scary part. They are setting a precident, and writing a law against "Swingers". This is the normal response of our courts and municipalities. It's appearent that the proprietors of "The Cherry Pit" have already violated municpal law. But instead of simply relying on the existing laws to do what they are intended to to (which they are, or else they would not have been able to arrest the club owners), they are going to write new TARGETED laws against sex clubs and swingers.
So, what if it was a Gay or Lesbian club they were running? Do you think it would have gotten shut down? (I'm not prejudice, but i'm not blind to cultural differences either.)
Well, I for one think we should put laws on everything. Let's make a law that you can't have sex in your own home with someone other than your "LEGALLY MARRIED" spouse, and you can't even have guests over who park behind a privacy fence. The amount of cars sitting there, doing nothing, hiding behind a fence, must sure be a huge annoyance to the neighbors. WE SHOULD RISE TOGETHER AND BAN THAT. More laws. More Laws.
Of course i'm joking. I'm heading off course into a broad sexual-politico subject that I will save for another day. The truth is, I want to run a sex club from my house. I don't think it would be the best environment for my children, but shouldn't I have that right, if I want to?
Reply and let me know. Should sex clubs be legal, and in what capacity?
"Swing Away"
P
I love how the media allowed the neighbor they interviewed to call it 'Sodam' and 'Gamorah'. The wonderful media of ours loves to use the religious aspect of our society when it suits them, and they will crush religion when it doesn't. They show these 'respectable' neighbors complaining about the activity behind a 'PRVACY FENCE'.
I understand you can't make money, by charging $50 to get into a private residence, and get away with it for long. But surely these folks saw that coming. I know, I know, they said it was a 'Donation'. That may be, but they were playing a very dangerous game.
Now I have attended 'Swinger' parties that had admissions to get in, and that is nothing new. Usually they give away prizes, and hold contests to break the ice, and mix it up. (Adult version of a middle school make out part, hehe) And we love them. But people can't continue to do 'business' in a residential area, outside the zoning laws, and expect to not get into some sort of trouble. If they were manufacturing goods out of their home, and shipping them to buyers, they would soon get busted.
But this brings up the next Question. Should sex clubs be legal. We all know that you shouldn't run a business (thats too big) out of your home. But it seems Duncanville is trying to pass a law that 'Sex Clubs' are illegal.
So, why should this scare you? I am willing to bet that if you look at the Duncanville city statute, there is already laws about having sex in public, and laws against running a business, including a club, out of your home. So, if there are already laws that say the things that are being sold, or done in a 'Sex Club' are already illegal, then why are they going to write a specific law against it?
This is the scary part. They are setting a precident, and writing a law against "Swingers". This is the normal response of our courts and municipalities. It's appearent that the proprietors of "The Cherry Pit" have already violated municpal law. But instead of simply relying on the existing laws to do what they are intended to to (which they are, or else they would not have been able to arrest the club owners), they are going to write new TARGETED laws against sex clubs and swingers.
So, what if it was a Gay or Lesbian club they were running? Do you think it would have gotten shut down? (I'm not prejudice, but i'm not blind to cultural differences either.)
Well, I for one think we should put laws on everything. Let's make a law that you can't have sex in your own home with someone other than your "LEGALLY MARRIED" spouse, and you can't even have guests over who park behind a privacy fence. The amount of cars sitting there, doing nothing, hiding behind a fence, must sure be a huge annoyance to the neighbors. WE SHOULD RISE TOGETHER AND BAN THAT. More laws. More Laws.
Of course i'm joking. I'm heading off course into a broad sexual-politico subject that I will save for another day. The truth is, I want to run a sex club from my house. I don't think it would be the best environment for my children, but shouldn't I have that right, if I want to?
Reply and let me know. Should sex clubs be legal, and in what capacity?
"Swing Away"
P
CWS Gazette - Open for business
Welcome to the CWS Gazetter, our spot for news and updates. I would reccommend that everyone subcribe to this feed, and participate as much as possible. I know, I know, You already have 15 blogs you are watching and most of them are reletively dull. Well, This isn't going to be the same, we are going to have discussions regularly, and links to all sorts of great informational and fun sites.
So, come lets play.
"Swing Away"
P
So, come lets play.
"Swing Away"
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